Parents are not Gods

Romantic bollywood-movie-loving-people from India say, 'God sent mothers so that He couldn't be with everyone.'
Isn't the otherwise inherent pressure of being a parent not enough that we had to actually elevate our position to something right next to God? I am a mother. And today I realise that although I am a mother, I am as human as I was before. I still make mistakes, I still doubt if I am doing the right thing or wrong, I still am confused of a lot of things which I shouldn't be if I were something similar to God. God is omnipotent... Isn't it?
Now that raise this question I look up at my parents from a different angle. They too were young & inexperienced just like we are now. They too must have had doubts and fears. Today realizing this truth I am able to forgive them for any small or big heart ache they might have caused me unknowingly. After all parents are humans..Period!

Baby....

I don't know how and when in the back of my mind this dream of having you in my life evolved. I did not realize I had this strong feelings for you. Neither did I know that I had wanted you this badly nor did I know that I will await your coming with such impatience.

But now, after 4 months of having you in my womb, the only thing I can think about is you and only you. I keep thinking- how you will look, how you will talk, how you will smile, what all you will like to eat, will you be more like me or more like your papa.....

I think of you so much and at times I worry whether I am going to pamper you and make you a spoilt brat!!! or whether I will be a strict mamma and make you hate me?!? Everybody tells me parenting is not so exciting- they say its tiring and trying! They say we shouldn't expect anything in return from you-that there will be rewarding moments only once in a blue moon... I hear them. Do you? If you do, then hear this too- I don't mind if you will give us extra rewarding moments than normal!!! :D

Your papa tells me that I am still a baby- He even calls me "baby"!!! And I still think at times your papa acts like a baby. You know what, I think we both will grow up along with you :)

We both are waiting for you... Hey, don't trouble me much when you come all right... and after you come also... be good :) We love you.

With lots of love,
Your Mamma

Golden Rules

Away from the hustle and bustle of daily routines, sometimes when we take a break and sit back and try and realize what is happening in our life... it may all seem nothing less than a movie, isn't it?? all moments of happiness, despair, elation, frustration-everything flashes and fades in our mind's eye in just a matter of seconds.

It is during one of my such moments I realized - life is ACTUALLY what we make out of it. I am jotting down a few insights below so that I can easily remind myself to not repeat the mistakes.

1. There is no point in arguments. Just keep quiet. - Anyone is who is willing to understand and act accordingly will do so on your being silent. Everything else is just a waste of energy.
2. Expectations does actually reduce joy.
3. Do not believe everything that everyone says. - They may not want to cheat you, but maybe your interpretation will be different than theirs.
4. Don't depend on anyone else for your happiness. That's foolishness.- No one can understand you better that yourself. And so, no one can keep you happier than yourself.
5. Say Thank you and Sorry and mean it - At least your conscience will be happy.

Life is that simple. 

Resilience

I just read this post in divya's blog about Mumbai being targeted again. She has done a good job in portraying how somebody feels when they have lost some one their own. I appreciate her willingness and effort to share about this on her blog. Especially because these days any crime be it small or big, any catastrophe be it man made or natural... everything has just become "another" incident and nothing more to those who are unaffected.

I have always wondered why in all channels the advertisements are shown more than once during the same program and I learned that it is the easiest way to increase familiarity of the product to even an uninterested-ad-skipping viewer. The innumerable number of news channels spread around the world try to cover each and every "important" disasters in every possible way they can. When repeatedly these news reach us, we tend to develop a false impression that all these horrible things are the most common things in the world!!! What we fail to remind ourselves repeatedly is that no matter how common it is- it is sad! I am not suggesting to cry with every bad news in the TV. Not at all. What I think we should do is to remind ourselves and our children/ friends/family continuously that it may be common to hear about disasters but being unattached and emotionless to such news is unacceptable... we are "supposed" to be humans, let us feel for each other!

I feel, that is the first step we can take against being nonchalant.

A few questions that the govt. needs to ask itself.
1. Why didn't our intelligence agency not have any clue about this planned 3 simultaneous attack?
2. Is it because they are not capable? Or is it coz they don't have enough resource?
3. With a population of more than 1.2 billion, are we in dearth of human power and intelligence?
4. Or is the deficeit mainly monetary? If it is monetary then we need to actually look into each and every MP's and MLA's and other prominent leaders' bank accounts and we all know we will find more than enough funds.

Hopefully something like the movie Muthalvan (Tamil) or Nayak (Hindi) will happen and we will all be saved in time... yea I know, it is a bit too fictional to wish for..but nevertheless the world is driven by hope...so might as well hope for this... and expect to get at least half best of it...

We talk , dicsuss & debate from home level to international level about how to eradicate the problems in our society...but in reality we are satisfied .. we are satisfied if we aren't bothered individually with any of the problems that is said to worry the public. Most of us will not even move our little finger to straighten the wrongs that cross our paths daily... See, this is why our hopes aren't fulfilled. We settle for something not worth for settling and then blame the system for it! We wake up only when something unwanted happens and then very soon return to our famous resilience.

Again... somewhere deep down I know this blog isn't followed and hence will not make any difference... this post is as hollow as all the debates /discussion /talks with no result whatsoever. But I sincerely wish and hope that we all will wake up soon and take a sturdy stance against doing our bit to not let happen things which aren't supposed to happen.